Find baby, find good friends
“Find, find, find friends, find a good friend, shake hands and salute, we are good friends .” I believe that moms and dads remember the songs of friends when they were young.
Friends, the undeniable elements of each childhood happy life can have a greater impact on a person’s personality, temperament, and interpersonal skills.
Making friends seems to be the most natural thing in the world, but most children today are only children. From birth to before entering kindergarten, they can only face the environment of a participant partner.
Although the love of parents, grandparents, and grandparents keeps children from becoming intelligent and physical growth conditions, the relationship between these family members and children is not equal.
This kind of growth experience has made some children who enter kindergartens and elementary schools lose their ability to make friends and get along with others, creating “communication difficulties”.
It seems that making friends is really not a simple matter of “salting, shaking hands”.
Making friends is the baby’s social development needs to explain children’s socialization needs in the most concise and understandable way. It can be said that it is a process for children to learn how to coexist and cooperate with others in the crowd.
The only baby before the age of 3 is the “little shadow” of the mother and father, and the family is almost the “life circle” of the baby.
At this time, the baby has a strong sense of security and comfort and a strong dependence on the family.
Children’s social development begins with the family.
In the family through the influence of parents and guidance of the baby to obtain the initial life experience, social knowledge, behavioral norms.
But through individual growth, the baby’s “living space” has begun to expand.
Babies after the age of 3 have begun to show interest and concern for “others” in their surroundings.
Toddler babies begin to enter the ranks of peers.
Most babies like to play with their companions and are eager to find children and join them.
Studies by American psychologists have found that babies 4-5 years old have an average of 3 companions in the game every day.
Infant socialization develops from the attachment state in infancy, and gradually moves towards more independent activities through imitation and interaction.
At this time, the baby spends a lot of time playing with kindergarten partners, neighbors and playmates at the party.
Although the game is a non-mandatory activity, it does not mean that they can do whatever they want in the game, and their behavior must be hindered by the rules of the game.
As the game shifts from parallelism to jointness and cooperation, the peer relationship in the game has also evolved from a looser match to a more coordinated and regular combination.
From the communication with peers, the baby can get others’ “evaluation information” on themselves, and thus debug their “self-evaluation”.
Playing with companions also helps to cultivate your baby’s self-control and conscious discipline. These activities have greatly improved the socialization of the baby.
Interacting with peers is even enough to make your baby understand each other ‘s attitudes and desires, and to enable your baby to learn to control his desires, cooperate with friends, and restraints between peers. This is what the baby experiences and tries to communicate with others in “interaction”Consequences of caring.
At the end of early childhood, the baby learns many new behaviors and develops a set of behaviors in dealing with peers outside the family and other social behaviors.
This will enable them to better adapt to the changing social environment as adults.